Our Kids Are Alright
One of the most frequently asked questions we get at The Lesbian & Gay Foundation is from parents or family members asking, “I think my child is gay, what do I do?”
Our Kids Are Alright aims to help answer that question, it gives parents, family members and loved ones advice and support if you’re unsure about what to do or how to react if your child or someone close to you has come out.
This guide really comes from the heart, the staff team at the LGF donated their tea and coffee money to ensure this guide got made, and to make sure that lesbian, gay and bisexual people get the love and support they deserve.
Lots of mums and dads have shared their stories of their experiences of their child (and in some cases more than one child) coming out to them as lesbian, gay or bisexual; they talk about how they responded, their concerns and the support they gave their children and found for themselves.
“Then Lucy came out and it was a complete shock because I had no inkling and, of course, it meant that I now had no straight children.” I was devastated for a while, in mourning for the daughters I thought I had lost.” Colette
“My children will always be the same to me, regardless of their sexuality, I will always be supportive of them... After all it’s John and Kate’s life to live as they wish, as long as they are happy so am I.” Stuart
In some cases, their children also share their experiences of the courage it takes to come out to your parents and family, for fear of the unexpected and rejection.
“I first knew that I had gay feelings when I was 14, but I didn’t come out untiI I was 24. For 10 years I managed to lie to myself and those around me.” Andrew
There’s also lots of practical advice on supporting your child; from what to say and what not to say, to realising that being gay or bisexual isn’t a choice and isn’t anybody’s fault!
There is also no nonsense myth-busting about what this might mean for you and your child, and signposts to groups, resources and other parents who might be able to help if you are struggling to understand.
Whether you’re the parent of a lesbian, gay or bisexual person, or think your child might be questioning their sexual orientation, we hope that this new guide will be able to help you understand, support and continue to love your child for who they are.
Whether you’re the friend of a person with a lesbian, gay or bisexual child and think your friend might need a helping hand understanding their child’s sexual orientation, please get your hands on a copy of Our Kids Are Alright and give it to them or get them to call the LGF on 0845 3 30 30 30.
Or, if you are the lesbian, gay or bisexual person struggling to come out to your parents and family, or maybe you already have and it hasn’t gone well, give this guide to them or leave it around the house, because hopefully, in time, they’ll come round, and support you for who you are.