Playing with yourself, masturbation, knocking one out - whatever we call it, sometimes we spend so much time doing it with ourselves we forget that it is something we can enjoy with others too.
No-one has ever caught HIV from masturbating with someone else, so you can experiment and enjoy without risk - having said that, don't be too silly with your willy or you could end up irritating it, and making it sore which could leave you open to get NSU.
You may have used the same method since you discovered how to do it, but not everyone enjoys the same thing, and just because you like something, doesn't mean your partner(s) will too. It also doesn't mean that there aren't a hundred new ways to try that you might like even more.
Next time you take advantage of yourself, experiment with different techniques and ask your partner(s) what they like and dislike. You may be surprised what turns you or them on!
There's certainly more to it than grabbing hold and tugging along!
Examples of some techniques
This is the missionary position of masturbation, and probably the most widely used. It is better if you try and use the entire shaft of your cock, and works better for guys with longer dicks. If your penis isn't much longer than your fist is wide, then another technique might be better.
The Three Finger
This technique works better for guys with smaller dicks. Hold the shaft the same way that you would hold a pen, with three fingers. This gives much more control over your stroking, and also allows you to work down the entire length of your penis.
...there are many other techniques, including the back hander (which is more or less a reversed version of the fist) and Five Fingers which is a variation on the three finger. Experiment, and have fun until you find your personal favourite. If you get bored of the techniques here, then make up your own. It's fun, free and safe... who could ask for more?
Using lube can reduce friction and can heighten the sexual sensation even when 'playing' alone.
You can find all of this information in 'Sex tips' - our guide to a healthy sex life and... sex!
Toungue-in-cheek yet factual, this plain speaking booklet was created to answer the questions which gay men want to ask. Many of the subjects covered are included in response to questions called in to the LGF helpline or suggested by service users.