Seeking Support and Useful Contacts

Being the victim of rape or sexual assault can leave you feeling isolated and alone.

When you are ready to talk, there are lots of people out there who can help you to find where to start, including a number of services who specialise in supporting men. Here are three things to help you on your way:

  • If you decide to seek support through counselling or another support service, then you should never be pushed into disclosing what happened in any detail. Trauma needs to be treated very delicately, and re-living what happened can actually have an adverse effect – therapy should be at a slow and safe pace that you feel comfortable with.
  • It’s never too late to ask for support; even if the rape or assault is historical. For some men, it can take decades for them to talk about sexual violence, but this doesn’t mean that their need for support is any less.
  • Shop around for the support that suits you (see below) – deciding which services you want to access, can help you to feel empowered and more in control of your own healing journey.

Here at The Lesbian & Gay Foundation, we have been supporting gay and bisexual men who have been victims of sexual violence through our services for over 10 years. We are able to offer:

  • Immediate support through our daily Pop-In Service; 10am-8pm Monday-Friday (no appointment needed)
  • A listening and non-judgemental ear through our Helpline; 0845 3 30 30 30 10am-10pm daily
  • A safe and accepting space to explore your feelings through our Face-to-Face Counselling Service (free to gay and bisexual men who are survivors of sexual violence and abuse). For more information and to request an application form, email counselling@lgf.org.uk, call us on 0845 3 30 30 30 or visit www.lgf.org.uk/counselling
     
  • The opportunity to speak to a Police Offer in our weekly Police Advice Surgery. Every Thursday evening 6pm-8pm (no appointment needed)
  • HIV Testing Clinics & Information for sexual health; call us on 0845 3 30 30 30 or email sexualhealth@lgf.org.uk

All of the above services (with the exception of some sexual health clinics) are delivered from the LGF’s Community Resource Centre at Number 5 Richmond Street, Manchester M1 3HF.

We work closely with Survivors Manchester who make regular referrals into our Counselling Service and provide us with specialist training around working with male survivors of sexual violence and abuse.

We can also help you to navigate other support options from specialist services, or just be here to listen if that’s what you need - just let us know how we can help.

Other Organisations

Survivors Manchester

A survivor-led/survivor-run voluntary organisation supporting male survivors of sexual abuse and rape.

Web: www.survivorsmanchester.org.uk
Email: support@survivorsmanchester.org.uk
Tel: 07919 246 267

St Mary’s Sexual Assault Referral Centre (Manchester)

Offer forensic, medical and counselling services to men and women who have experienced rape or sexual assault.

Web: www.stmaryscentre.org
Email: stmarys.sarc@cmft.nhs.uk
Helpline: 0161 276 6515

Survivors UK

National helpline for male survivors of rape and sexual abuse.

Web: www.survivorsuk.org
Email: info@survivorsuk.org
Helpline: 0845 122 1201 (Mon & Tues 7-9.30pm, Thurs 12-2.30pm)

The Survivors’ Trust

A national umbrella organisation for over 120 voluntary rape and sexual abuse specialist support services.

Web: www.thesurvivorstrust.org.uk
Tel: 01788 550 554 (Please note that this is not a helpline)

Men’s Advice Line

A confidential helpline for all men experiencing domestic violence by a current or ex-partner.

Web: www.mensadvice.org.uk
Email: info@mensadviceline.org.uk
Helpline: 0808 801 0327